When Dad took us fishing, sometimes he showed us how, and other times, he left us on our own to learn by doing. Occasionally, we would buy bait, like minnows, worms, crickets, etc. But other times, if there was no bait shop nearby, we would find our own bait. He taught us how to use almost anything as bait. We’ve used oatmeal balls, cut up hot dogs, cheese, bologna… I’ve probably even tried sticks and paper! We also used other live things for bait including mussels and small fish.
The mussels were not too hard to find in the Tennessee River. They’re located in the rocky bottom near almost every shore. Just crack them open or break them with a rock and pull out the “muscle” part of the mussel, along with some junk that we never were sure what it was, and put it on a hook. Bream love them!
The small fish took a little more care. We would catch minnow-sized, to 2-3 inch long, small fish. If they were larger than a minnow, we’d cut them up to put on the hooks. This took extra time, of course, but someone had to do it. Some of us would fish, while someone else cut the bait, usually Dad. When enough bait was cut, we could all fish.
The thing that Dad taught me through this is that just sitting around, doing nothing, does not accomplish anything. In almost every situation, there is something you can do to help. The “wizbit”: Fish or Cut Bait did surely not originate with Dad. It is probably as old as fishing itself. But by being taught how to do both, it has a greater meaning to me. Now, when I’m in a situation where I’m trying to do something and someone else is just sitting there, doing nothing when I could use some help, it at least makes me wonder “why aren’t you doing something?”
You see, Dad taught me that activity accomplishes things. Inactivity simply leads to a pile of things that need to be done. When you’re in a boat on a fishing trip, there are only a couple of productive things you can do. Specifically, you can either fish, or you can cut bait. Sure, there are other things like tending to the tackle, putting hooks or baits on the lines, and depending on the type of fishing, you may even be driving the boat or doing something else. But just sitting, when there are things to be done, should not be one of the options.
Through the years, I’ve been in situations where there was literally nothing I could do to help. And sometimes, in those situations, “helping” is not always a good thing. Many a time I have had to repeat what has become a mantra for my whole family: “I was only trying to help!” It is difficult to know when to help, when to just listen, and when to just sit. It takes most of us a lifetime to learn these things, and many never do.
However, in a lot of situations, it becomes very obvious that there are a few jobs that need to be done. When you notice this, stand up and get started on one. Don’t say “It’s not my job.” or try to get someone else to do it. If you notice it needs to be done, it is practically your responsibility at that point!
This is especially true in house and office keeping. Dirty cup in the sink? Wash it. Counter cluttered? Clean it off. Dusty floor? Vacuum or sweep. Dirty Clothes? Wash them. Do I need to be more specific? It doesn’t matter what needs to be done, or who you THINK is responsible for it. Life has also taught me that if you THINK someone is responsible for something in your home or office, it may never get done. Until we all take responsibility, things will be left undone. Each of us must do this in our lives or be prepared to be disappointed with others on a regular basis.
Think about your own situation with a roommate, spouse, partner, office mate, kids, whatever. SHOW them how to live by doing things before they know it. Don’t do it for the glory, or to hear a big band play for you, in fact, don’t expect to even be thanked. Just do it because it is the right thing to do.
When you see that there are jobs to be done… don’t just sit there… fish or cut bait!